Your photos are THE MOST IMPORTANT part of your online dating profile. So they’d better be good. Here’s how to make the most of them.
You have two goals:
- To look as attractive as possible.
- To accurately represent how you look in real life.
These may be somewhat contradictory. Goal 1 is important because presumably you want to date the most attractive person (including non-physical traits) who will have you.
However, you also want to be clear about what you really look like. Otherwise you’re setting yourself up for disappointment when your online admirer finally sees you in real life.
A lot of websites say you should prioritize the latter. Better to choose a less-attractive photo than risk portraying yourself inaccurately, they advise. But I disagree.
In my opinion, you should err on the side of more attractive, even if it may not be exactly how you look while commuting home from work at 6 pm.
BUT you shouldn’t use a photo where you look quite different from how you look when you wake up in the morning, unless you intend to go through the same transformative procedure before every real-life date.
For example, this sort of thing is great:
And it’s something you can probably do on your own:
However, you should avoid using photos where makeup has altered your face shape (again, unless it’s what you do every day), like this one:
Because after all:
Now, you can make yourself look slightly thinner in your photos by contouring your collar bone, like this lady did here:
But remember, there are some things you must be up-front about. Aim to use photos that were taken within the last year. You should be roughly the same size in the photos as you are in real life (give or take 5% of your body weight). Post a variety of photos, including at least one that shows your full body (not just a closeup of your head).
So what makeup products should you use? Well, this Buzzfeed tutorial is actually quite helpful.
By following these tips, you can improve your Tinder headshots.
Even though I’m not on any online dating sites (since I’m happily in a relationship), if you’re in Montreal, I recommend this service: Amadou online dating photography.
Lastly, here’s an interesting post where one woman tested men’s reactions to three different types of makeup on her Tinder profile.